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كلمة (القهّار) في اللغة صيغة مبالغة من القهر، ومعناه الإجبار،...
‘Ā’ishah (may Allah be pleased with her) reported that whenever it was her night with the Messenger of Allah (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) he would go out at the end of the night to the Baqī‘ (graveyard) and say: “Peace be upon you, abode of believers. You will get what you have been promised. You will be deferred until tomorrow. We, Allah willing, shall definitely join you. O Allah, forgive the people of Baqī‘ al-Gharqad.” Buraydah (may Allah be pleased with him) reported that the Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) taught them that if they went out to the graveyard, they should say: “Peace be upon you, dwellers of these abodes from amongst the believers and Muslims. We, Allah willing, shall definitely join you. I ask Allah to grant us and you well-being.” Ibn ‘Abbās (may Allah be pleased with him) reported: The Messenger of Allah (may Allah’s peace and blessings be upon him) passed by the graves of Madīnah, so he turned his face toward them and said: "Peace be upon you, O dwellers of the graves. May Allah forgive us and you. You preceded us and we shall soon follow you."
شرح الحديث :
These Hadīths indicate that it is recommended to visit the graves, greet the dead, and pray for them, asking Allah to have mercy upon them. Therefore, we should visit the graves, but for what purpose? To benefit them or to benefit from them? The answer is that we visit the graves to benefit them by praying for the dead, not to invoke them. We also visit the graves to soften our hearts. When your heart is distracted because you indulge yourself in life, go out to the graves. Think about the dead who were on earth like you, eating, drinking, and enjoying themselves. Where are they now? They are held accountable for what they had done; nothing avails them except their good deeds. So, reflect upon their situation and then greet them: “Peace be upon you, abode of believers.” Apparently, and Allah knows best, they return the greeting, because they are addressed directly with it. However, the greeting could be a prayer for them, regardless they respond or not.