العشرة بين الزوجين
Iyās ibn ‘Abdullāh ibn Abi Dhubāb (may Allah be pleased with him) reported that the Messenger of Allah (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) said: ''Do not beat Allah's handmaidens.'' Later, ‘Umar (may Allah be pleased with him) came to the Messenger of Allah (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) and said: ''Women have become emboldened towards and disobedient to their husbands.'' So he gave a license to beat them. Consequently, many women came round the families of the Messenger of Allah (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) complaining about their husbands. So the Messenger of Allah (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) said: ''Many women have gone round Muhammad's families complaining about their husbands. Those (husbands) are not the best of you.''
عن إياس بن عبد الله بن أبي ذباب -رضي الله عنه- قال: قال رسول الله -صلى الله عليه وسلم-: «لا تضربوا إِمَاءَ الله» فجاء عمر -رضي الله عنه- إلى رسول الله -صلى الله عليه وسلم- فقال: ذَئِرْنَ النساءُ على أزواجهن، فَرَخَّصَ في ضربهن، فَأَطَافَ بآل رسول الله -صلى الله عليه وسلم- نساءٌ كثيرٌ يَشْكُونَ أزواجهن، فقال رسول الله -صلى الله عليه وسلم-: «لقد أَطَافَ بآل بيت محمد نساءٌ كثيرٌ يَشْكُونَ أزواجهن، ليس أولئك بِخِيَارِكُمْ».
شرح الحديث :
The Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) forbade beating women. Later, ‘Umar ibn al-Khattāb (may Allah be pleased with him) came to him and said: ''Women have become emboldened towards and disobedient to their husbands.'' So the Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) allowed beating women, not severely, in special cases like disobedience. Therefore, many women complained to the wives of the Messenger of Allah (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) complaining that their husbands beat them severely, thus abusing the Prophet's license. So the Messenger of Allah (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) said that those men who were beating their wives severely were not the best of men. A reason for that judgment is that Allah, the Almighty, made beating the last resort in dealing with a woman's disobedience. He said: {...But those [wives] from whom you fear arrogance - [first] advise them; [then if they persist], forsake them in bed; and [finally], strike them} [Sūrat An-Nisā': 34]. These three penalties are not to be combined, but they should be used in order: first, admonition, and then forsaking in bed. If these do not work, then beating is allowed to discipline the wife, not to take revenge on her.